Every November, people across the globe grow out their mustaches in solidarity for Movember, a movement that started with a focus on men’s physical health, particularly prostate and testicular cancer. Over time, Movember has broadened to highlight a critical but often overlooked area—men’s mental health. Despite increasing awareness, many men still face challenges that prevent them from seeking help, leading to high rates of mental health struggles, depression, and even suicide. As a child and family counseling center, we’re committed to supporting mental wellness for men and boys, helping to break down the stigma and encourage healthy, open conversations around mental health.
Why Men’s Mental Health Is Often Overlooked
Men and women experience mental health issues at comparable rates, but men are often less likely to seek help. Social expectations, cultural stereotypes, and longstanding notions of masculinity contribute to this. Men are often expected to “tough it out” or hide their emotions to appear strong. This can lead to bottling up emotions, which increases stress and deepens feelings of isolation.
Studies show that around 75% of suicides are men—a statistic that underscores the critical need to create more accessible and acceptable pathways for men to seek mental health support.
Understanding the Unique Challenges Men Face
- Social Pressure to Be ‘Tough’
From a young age, many men are taught to keep their feelings to themselves, avoid showing vulnerability, and remain “strong” in the face of hardship. This “tough guy” mentality can prevent them from sharing struggles, which compounds the stress. Breaking this stigma is essential to encourage openness and help-seeking behavior. - Isolation and Lack of Support Networks
While women often maintain closer, more open friendships that allow them to share emotional struggles, men may lack such social networks. Many men feel they have no one to talk to, which can lead to feelings of loneliness. Research shows that having strong social connections can improve mental health, so finding ways to foster supportive communities for men is vital. - Work-Related Stress and Burnout
Financial responsibilities and career pressures are common sources of stress for men. The societal expectation to be a provider can intensify these pressures, leading to work-related stress, burnout, and often mental health issues such as anxiety or depression. Acknowledging these struggles and recognizing the importance of self-care can be transformative for men’s mental wellness.
Signs of Mental Health Struggles in Men
Mental health challenges may manifest differently in men than in women. While everyone is unique, here are some common signs that could indicate a man is struggling with mental health:
- Irritability or anger instead of sadness
- Physical symptoms like headaches, back pain, or digestive issues
- Increased use of alcohol or other substances to cope
- Withdrawing from friends, family, and hobbies
- Changes in sleep patterns or appetite
Recognizing these signs in yourself or others can be a powerful first step toward getting help.
How to Support the Men in Your Life
Being a source of support for someone you suspect may be struggling with mental health can make a difference. Here are some ways to help:
- Encourage Open Conversations
Ask how they’re feeling in a relaxed setting, where they feel comfortable sharing. You can start by expressing your own struggles or thoughts, which might encourage them to open up. Listening without judgment and allowing them to express themselves can help them feel valued and safe. - Check In Regularly
Sometimes, a single conversation may not be enough. Checking in periodically shows that you genuinely care. Even a quick text or a call can remind them they’re not alone. - Suggest Professional Help—Without Pressure
Reaching out to a counselor can feel daunting, so it’s helpful to approach this suggestion with sensitivity. You might mention how helpful it can be to talk to a professional and even offer to assist them in finding a counselor or attending a session with them if they’re open to it.
Self-Care Tips for Men: Simple Steps to Mental Wellness
Engaging in self-care doesn’t have to be complicated. Here are some simple, practical steps that can help boost mental wellness:
- Physical Activity
Exercise is a powerful tool for mental health. Whether it’s a quick jog, a walk in the park, or lifting weights, physical activity can reduce stress and improve mood. Many men find that sports or other active hobbies are excellent ways to manage mental health. - Connecting with Friends and Family
Take time to nurture relationships. Catching up with friends or spending time with family members can alleviate stress and foster a sense of belonging. - Set Aside Time to Relax
Taking time for yourself isn’t selfish—it’s essential. Doing something you enjoy, like watching a movie, reading, or spending time outdoors, can make a big difference. Even a small break each day can refresh your mind and help you feel more centered.
Seeking Professional Help: It’s Okay to Ask for Help
If you or someone you know is struggling, remember that help is available, and it’s okay to ask for it. Professional counseling offers a confidential space to work through issues, learn coping skills, and build resilience. Reaching out can be a powerful first step toward better mental health.
At our clinic, we offer tailored services to address men’s unique mental health needs. Our licensed counselors are here to support men in working through life’s challenges, whether that means dealing with stress, overcoming depression, or simply learning how to lead a healthier, more fulfilling life.
Conclusion: Let’s Change the Conversation This Movember
Breaking down the stigma around men’s mental health is essential. By opening conversations, building supportive communities, and encouraging self-care, we can make mental health support more accessible for men. This Movember, let’s take the time to reach out to the men in our lives, encourage them to take care of their mental health, and remind them that they’re not alone.
If you or someone you know is in crisis, don’t wait to get help. Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988, or reach out to a trusted mental health professional.
Let’s make mental health a priority for everyone, not just this Movember, but year-round!
